Category: Relationships

Let’s Be “Real”

None of us have it all together. We all make mistakes. We all have faults. We all have something about us that we would like to change whether it is in our appearance or our hearts or our mind. We all have something we struggle with or skeletons in our closet that we wish we didn’t have to deal with or that we don’t want others to know about. When we give those to Christ, he will help us deal with them and show us ways we can use them to help others.

Christ is the only person that had it all together. He died for us so that we can overcome our faults and use our weaknesses to help others. When we allow our weaknesses to be used to reach others, others can look past us and our imperfections and see the Christ, the only one that has ever been perfect.

Through Christ, we can look forward to attaining perfection in heaven. So for now let’s be real and relate to those that may need a friend to get them over their own imperfections. We can all be imperfect together that we might all be perfect in heaven where we will finally “get it all together”.

Need a Friend?

God created us to be a companion. He wants us to fellowship with Him. Jesus can be and wants to be our friend. He is like no other. He is all knowing and can take us to levels higher than any friend. He can bring us through any valley no matter how low our circumstance. Why would anyone want to turn away that kind of friend? Why not ask Him to be your friend today?

You Can’t Buy a Relationship

Sometimes people will do something for someone or give them gifts in hopes that they will be their friend. When this happens, the person receiving the gifts will often be a friend until the giving stops. Usually they want the giving to increase and when they have exhausted the person of their resources, then they no longer treat them well. The person doing the giving may begin to feel used even if they were the one that created the situation.

Many times, a person will continue to develop these relationships thinking that is the way to get friends. They get friends but don’t realize they are unhealthy relationships. When people expect things from you, they continue to want more and when you can’t give them more, they want out. You will begin to be at their mercy no matter what they put you through. If you continue to be willing to expose yourself to their demands you may begin to lose your self esteem.

Pride can be a harmful thing, but you must have some so that you don’t continue to be walked on. You can have good friends that don’t expect something in return. Those will be your true friends. Once you begin to develop some true friends that you can share a healthy relationship with, you should be able to boost your confidence and not be seeking friends that have a negative influence on you. You need to set boundaries and get out of the relationships that hold you back from being all that you can be.

Denial

Are you blaming others for the negative things going on in your life? Do you really think that how you live does not affect the quality of life that you experience? Most of what happens to us is a result of the decisions we make. Others only have as much influence as we allow them to have. Many will blame others because they don’t want to deal with the fact that they may have changes that they need to make. This only causes problems in the relationship because there is blame placed on those that are not at fault. Resentment and hard feelings can build and destroy the relationship. Both parties will have to work at mending the relationship. No relationship can heal unless both are willing.

No one can help someone have a more positive life until that person is willing to admit to things that are holding them back. They must be willing to make necessary changes. A problem can’t be fixed until that person recognizes the problem and admits to having a problem. We all have problems arise in our life at different times. We must be accountable for how we handle the problems. We must take responsibility for the outcome. Putting blame on someone else will never be the solution. At that point, it is a form of denial.