Addictions

Addictions can be almost anything. Most think of addictions when they think of drugs and alcohol, maybe cigarettes and pornography, and then you have everyday stuff like coffee. Some of these may be good in their place and at appropriate times.

As for cigarettes and pornography, I can’t think of anything good that could come from them. I think cigarettes are only known for their destructive properties. Pornography has to affect the self esteem of those that make it. I can’t imagine feeling very highly of myself exploiting others or exploiting myself. Those that view it, have the same symptoms as drug and alcohol addicts. They need more of it and they are bound by the desire. Pornography has also been known to cause marriage problems and sexual problems. It goes to the extreme of causing you to no longer be able to function in a normal way during sexual intercourse. Young boys have been destroyed by pornography to the point that when they reach the age of wanting to marry, they have created a handicap within themselves that hinder the natural pleasure that God intended between a husband and wife.

Sex can also be an addiction when it is abused. Sex was intended to be something that helps hold a husband and wife together. When it is used simply as entertainment outside of marriage, it works just like a drug. Many, once they get involved will lose their ability to restrict who they participate with. Sex to them will lose its emotional aspect. Males tend to not have as an emotional tie as females which also creates problems because of a females desire to feel loved so they give in to a males desire that can be strictly hormonal. The benefit to restricting yourself until marriage gives you that added bond between you and your spouse that makes your sex life more satisfying than those that have not refrained and it also gives you the control in years to come that will give you the strength to not wonder outside of your marriage for what you should be seeking with your spouse. When there are problems within a marriage, you should seek solutions to those problems because sex outside your marriage will not solve the problem. Sex within your marriage will actually help. If there is a problem with your sexual relations within your marriage, it is probably due to some other underlying issue that can be worked out if both parties are willing to work it out. So basically, unhealthy sexual relations can be addictive.

Some alcohol, such as wine have been noted for their benefits. I feel some of these benefits could be obtained from non fermented juices and there wouldn’t be the risk of developing an addiction.

Drugs when used appropriately under the consultation of a physician and pharmacist can be helpful in our healing process and for certain medical conditions. When these are abused by people that have no clue what the drugs can do to them, the drugs become an addiction. They need more to satisfy, their brain and other organs are being destroyed, they have no concept of what real life is suppose to look like.

Everyday stuff like coffee, tea, caffeinated beverages, candy, you can almost list anything that you eat or drink in this list. If we are compelled to have it and don’t seem to function properly without it, then it can be an addiction. Coffee and tea have been noted as having some health benefits. Most foods have health benefits. Most of this list probably would not cause much concern unless they are leading to obesity or some other health issue. The biggest concern here would be the caffeinated beverages used in excess or especially the high caffeinated beverages that are not regulated and young people seem to be consuming. These have been known to be bad for your heart rate and to be fatal when used with alcohol and drugs.

I believe you can also be addicted to certain friends, boyfriend/girlfriend. Friends are for the most part good. We all need friends that we can talk to and share good times. It is when we can’t be away from a certain person and still be happy. It is when we depend on them to make us happy that it becomes an addiction. No person should be responsible for making us happy or unhappy. That just creates a unhealthy relationship. Some so called friends can lead us down the wrong path doing things that are wrong and making our wrongs seem alright.

Spending money can be another addiction. We can get ourselves into debt with our spending. We get use to having what we want and don’t know how to say “no” to the desire for an item. Sometimes it isn’t the item that causing the good feeling but the spending itself or maybe we think we are doing a good deed by helping someone else. If it is spending that we can’t afford then it is out of control. Sometimes we have the money but maybe we are spending it on the wrong stuff. This may also cause a negative impact on our lives.

Addictions are basically, anything that is robbing us of life or a part of our life. It is anything that is controlling us. It is anything that is causing a negative impact on ourselves or the ones around us. We have the ability to chose what is good for us and need to keep check on all things that they don’t get out of hand. If we really look and can follow our conscience, we will make the right choice. When we don’t have the strength to overcome any addiction, we have a God that will give us the strength we need if we turn to Him and ask for His help. He wants us to have an abundant life. It will not be without trouble but He will help us through the troubles. We do not need any of these addictions to help us feel good. These addictions only feel good for a time. We usually have a bigger problem after making the wrong choice. Let’s learn from the troubles we have and seek God instead of a temporary fix that only makes things worse. God always makes things better.

Don’t Use God’s Name in Vain

If you ever find yourself using God’s name in a way it was not intended, Stop! You should try using God’s name to ask for help instead of as a swear word. Whatever mess you have made, he can help you straighten it out. If what you have tried hasn’t worked out, then ask Him to work it out. He can do what we cannot. Call on Him. He will listen. He has plans for you. Plans to prosper you, not to harm you. He will always let you choose. His plans will lead you to success. Our plans often can lead to destruction if He is not in them. Be smart. Do it His way, the right way.

Exodus 20

“You shall not misuse the name of the Lord your God, for the Lord will not hold anyone guiltless who misuses his name.

Just Cry

When you are hurting and feel like crying, then cry. We have many things come into our lives that can cause us to want to cry. People hurt us, we have broken relationships, we have dreams and goals that fail. It can be any number of things. This goes for boys as well as girls, men as well as women. Boys and men tend to hold in their feelings more because of standards and upbringing that make them think it is not OK to express their feelings. This has been known to be unhealthy so let it out.

Crying will help you heal and God sees your tears and will dry your tears. Ask Him to help you get through whatever you are facing. Many times when you hold the crying in, you get angry and mean. Your feelings have to come out and when you hold them in they come out in inappropriate ways. That anger is taken out on others that have not even caused your pain. You will tend to hurt others because of your pain. You will hurt those that may be trying to help you through your situation.

When you cry, there will be others that understand how you feel. There are others that have experienced the same kind of hurt that you are going through. You will get past these hard times and it may be a while before things look brighter but it will get easier. You may be the one that gets to help the next person through their hard time. So go ahead and cry and you will regain your strength.

Are You Seeing Clearly?

We can’t see clearly without Christ.

Without Christ, we see as the world sees and that is not the whole picture. When we have Christ, we can see what the world cannot see or understand. We may do things differently than what would seem logical from the world’s point of view.

Seeing and living with this clear vision will seem weird to the world but will give us peace and joy that the world will not understand.

“‘Be ever hearing, but never understanding;
be ever seeing, but never perceiving.’
10 Make the heart of this people calloused;
make their ears dull
and close their eyes.[a]
Otherwise they might see with their eyes,
hear with their ears,
understand with their hearts,
and turn and be healed.” Isaiah 6:9&10(NIV)

Do we choose to not want to know the truth and forfeit the chance to be healed?

11 He told them, “The secret of the kingdom of God has been given to you. But to those on the outside everything is said in parables 12 so that,

“‘they may be ever seeing but never perceiving,
and ever hearing but never understanding;
otherwise they might turn and be forgiven!’[a]” Mark 4:11&12(NIV)

The only way to receive the forgiveness is to turn and ask. We don’t get better by ignoring the truth or pretending there is no problem.

Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.                Philippians 4:4-7(NIV)

11 I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete.          John 15:11(NIV)

Would peace and joy make life better?

Protecting Our Children

I would hope that most parents try to protect their children from the bumps and bruises of life for as long as they can or as long as the children will allow them. We do our best to help them avoid the skinned knees and sooth them the best we can when they do fall.

As they grow, we continue to guide their choices to avoid bad circumstances and ease the pain when they do choose incorrectly. We have to be careful not to sooth too much for it is in those consequences they learn to make better choices.

Children will all be different in wanting that protection for less time than others. When a child chooses to make wrong choices, depending on their age, trusting God to speak to them may be our only resource  because they will no longer want our advice or protection.

It is sometimes hard to watch them suffer when their circumstance could have been avoided. It is also hard because we may have been able to protect them for many years and now we have to watch as they sometimes make decisions that are not the best for them. These decisions can often be destructive.

We should pray for our children always, but prayer at these times may be our only hope of guiding and protecting by allowing our God to work in them and use what they experience to His glory for He can use the bad and make it good.