Have you ever suggested to someone how to get a job done or shared with them what you thought would be a better solution? Have they ever responded, “That sounds nice, but I think I’ll do it my way.” Sometimes our way is not the best way. Sometimes it is our way that got us into the mess we are in. It is always God’s way that works the best. If we are always wanting to do things our way, we will always end up either in a disastrous situation or in a situations that is less than what God had intended for us. God will allow us to be stubborn and do it our way. He will not force anyone to do anything His way. If you want all you can get out of life and the best life available to you then you will quit trying to do things your way and you will find that God’s ways are the best no matter what you have to go through.
We all want to be tough. Sometimes when we look tough on the outside, others can see the brokenness inside. As our kids grow, they want to be independent. They act tough because they want their parents and peers to think they can handle life on their own. God did not create us to handle life on our own. He created us to need Him and others. We try to protect our kids. We wish we could bandage the brokenness they have like we use to bandage a scraped knee but as they get older, the wounds get so much deeper. We need a God, a heavenly parent to heal our wounds and to allow Him to heal the wounds of our children.
A husband is to love his wife and a wife is to respect her husband. This is not hard when both are being obedient to God’s guidance but when one is not doing their part, it makes it more difficult for the other to do their part. This can cause a cycle that continues and can cause a distance between a couple. Satan is happy when this happens because a house divided cannot stand and he is all about destroying marriages and families.
Communication can be the best solution to understanding each other and fulfilling each other’s needs. This can be difficult at times with hectic schedules and most do not liking confrontation but the more you participate, the easier it becomes. Communication can cause a cycle that will glorify God and make the relationship better. It will cause love and respect to be given over and over and the cycle creates a positive effect instead of a negative effect.
If you are in a relationship that you feel you are giving all the time and not receiving, it can be difficult but keep doing what you should. Seek God for your fulfillment and He will be faithful to work things out.
Even in a relationship that is going well, there is still a need for God in each life because there are things that only God can satisfy. Putting a burden on your spouse to fulfill a need that only God can fulfill will also keep you at a distance. Try to keep everything in perspective. We must examine our self before we approach the other.
We can’t solve each other’s problems but, when you seek God together, He gives solutions that work. We can do better individually by seeking God individually. We also do better in a relationship when we seek God within that relationship. God has blessings that only come because both are seeking together.
May God Bless Your Marriage!