God wants to be a part of your life but He will not force himself on you. He wants you to prosper and have a good life. It does not mean you have to be a radical Christian and be in church 10 times a week. It means He want to have a relationship with you where you tell Him your heartaches and He heals your sorrows and guides you to make decisions that are wiser than you can make on your own. Sometimes those decisions don’t make sense at the time but they work out to the good of those who love Him.
If you have made decisions that have made a mess of your life, God wants to help you clean it up. He takes big messes and small messes and makes something beautiful. If you are tired of dealing with the mess, simply ask God if He can do any better than you and that you want His help to make life better. He realizes you want to do it on your own, but He knows so much more about you than you know of yourself. He knows your hearts desire and what you want even before you ask. He does not give without us asking and He will not help without us inviting.
God has created all things and has the power to give and the power to take away. He has the power to run our life but He won’t do it. He allows us the free will to mess it up if that is what we want to do. We can be stubborn until the thief destroys us or we can choose to have life and have it in abundance but it comes down to our choice.